Anita's Haven

books, thoughts, stories, poetry, interviews, writing

A WOMAN’S WEAKNESS by Molly Gambiza – my review no.28

on 18/07/2015

image

FINDING STRENGTH IN YOUR WEAKNESS

Molly Gambiza is an author who has a lot of important things to say, especially about the position of girls and women in the world, and the need for tolerance in relationships and various cultures. Her family background, and the cultural differences between her homeland and Great Britain influence her work a lot, giving it a recognizable touch and becoming her trademark.

She offers a unique view on the life cycle of a young woman born in Africa, according to local customs and education system, later searching for happiness and success in the great, big world, and ultimately her marriage, where she realizes it all comes down to people and their souls, regardless of their geographical position or cultural herritage. You are either a decent human being, or you are not. The beginning of Eva’s marital story enfuriated me, because abuse is simply intolerable in my mind, but it is shocking how often we still come across it and how widespread it still is.

The story of Eva is dramatic. What I particularly like about the author’s position is that Molly Gambiza, although having empathy and sympathy for her character, tells the tale without forcing the reader to empathize, without begging for sympathy or cajoling us into compassion. She merely states the facts as they come to Eva, and the way Eva experiences and interprets them. She builds her characters as life happens, no mercy and no delays. Although the timeline might profit from some tweaking, and there is more telling than showing at times, as far as the author’s style is concerned, this book shows obvious progress in the writing craft from True Colours, another important social message by the same author. The language here is brutally stripped of all lyrical beauty for the single purpose of telling a tragically shocking tale of male-female inequality, nurtured by centuries of  tradition and  biggotry, which ignores changes in life and times. What paints the language into a particular style are the colourful expressions, often translated into English from the author’s African vernacular. It will be interesting to see how Molly Gambiza further develops her stories, characters and style. 

The value of Woman’s Weakness lies in the reality of the story (sad, but true), as well as the believable characters, all of them, from the sleezy ex-wife and gossipy neighbours, to the stern parents, the horrendous mother-in-law, and the abusive, misguided husband. Whether Molly Gambiza has witnessed some of these scenes herself, or merely met people like her characters, is irrelevant. Why she tells her stories is what matters, and I am sure her readers will recognize the value and message, and learn a lot from her stories. Molly Gambiza shows us that the woman’s need to be loved can be her weakness. But she also lets us know that love, when it is true, is not a weakness, but strength, and that you need to respect and love yourself, first and foremost, not clinging to others for evidence of self-worth. Because whatever we are and do, that is what we teach our children.

Sadly, I know women whose weakness remained their weakness, and destroyed their lives, and the lives of their children. Perhaps if they had read stories like this one, they would have discovered some inner strength and recognized their own value, and the true impact of their decisions. We don’t have to be perfect, but we have to be ourselves.

Book on Amazon

Advertisements

3 responses to “A WOMAN’S WEAKNESS by Molly Gambiza – my review no.28

  1. […] recommendations! A memorable story about a woman finding strength despite all odds. My review is here. By the way, FYI, this is the new cover for the book, and the review contains the old […]

    Like

  2. It’s reviews such as this that really encouraged me to talk more about Eva’s life. Women carry alot on their shoulders and say nothing about it. I encourage women to speak up…
    Thank you Anita for this review

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: