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Learn back from your children

Parenting

Plant a kiss on your daughter’s forehead
One that says all is well
Even when it’s not
Even when she sees it’s not
But make her believe it
It’s your job
You are her home
Her safe haven
Her parent.

Stroke your son’s hair in passing
A touch that encourages
Even when you have no courage
Even when you feel so weak
But make him believe it
It’s your job
You are his home
His safe haven
His parent.

And when she chirps around happily
With the smile of a thousand suns
Confident beyond any borders
And as tireless as spring
Be proud of your achievement
Don’t be shocked
Don’t be surprised
You’ve taught her life’s joy
Now it’s time to learn back from your daughter.

And when he dares to do the stuff he fears
And when he persists after defeat
Stubborn and brave and happy
And eager to make you proud
Be proud of your achievement
Don’t be tired
Don’t feel drained
You’ve taught him life’s battles
Now it’s time for you to learn back from your son.

Believe it
It’s your job
They are your home
Your safe haven
Your children.

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The sea

And when the wave sings out my darkness,
Soaking my night into deep silence,
Only a whisper will stay within me,
The whisper of my darkness,
A solitude calmness,
No drama, no stress.
On top of the wave it’s me and my soul,
Pure, serene, my own.
Hence the sea.
Hence the wave.
It’s where I am the one.
It’s where I am I.

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I kad mi val otpjeva moju tminu,
Mrak upije u tihu dubinu,
Samo će šum ostat u meni,
Šum moje tame,
Mir osame,
Bez drame.
A na valu moja duša i ja,
Čista, smirena i svoja.
Zato more.
Zato val.
Tu sam ta.
Tu sam ja.
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When Your Demon Comes

When your demon comes
(and it will)
A volcano will pound
A tumultuous sound
Your eyes will burn
Your head will ache
Lava will surge
Erupt from your heart
And flow through your body
At the speed of light
Don’t stop it
Or freeze it
Just let it flow
And wait.

When your demon comes
(and it will)
Keep still
It will heal
Close your eyes
Breathe deep
Relax your shoulders
And imagine a dew drop
On a green leaf
Sparkling in early sunlight
Caress it with your breath
Don’t break it
Or wipe it off
Then open your eyes
And smile.

When your demon comes
(and it will)
Let it live
But believe
It will help you
It is your friend
And let it wash its face
Cool the lava with the dew
Let it give its strength
To your mind’s power
Embrace it
And wield it
Then do what is right
And be strong.

From Versus Verses – Love

#selfworth #ebook https://tinyurl.comy7xww2l9

#paperback https://tinyurl.com/ycu3tv3r

(On loving yourself, demons and all;)

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Special and Peculiar

My cousin had Down Syndrome. All she ever gave anyone was love, smiles, hugs, cuddling, friendship and kindness. All she ever cried about was cruelty, abuse, violence and anger.

All I feel when I remember her is love, smiles, hugs, cuddling, friendship and kindness.

Giant

There is a little giant

Hidden inside your heart.

He is good and fun,

And kind and honest,

And powerful and brave.

He is your secret,

But he is not your shame.

He is your secret weapon.

He is your superpower.

You have to let him do his job.

Just let him shine within you

And lurk through your eyes.

And no bad words,

And no violence,

And no illness

Will harm you.

(This poem of mine appeared in an international anti-bullying charity book Inner Giant.)

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World Poetry Day

How long has it been since you last read some poetry?

#poetry #meditation #songs #verse #inspiration #therapy

#ebook https://tinyurl.com/ybpyubg9

#paperback https://tinyurl.com/y8jqwlwt

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How about you?

I am happy.
I am happy because Women’s Day is a reminder in my life.
I am happy because I grew up in a family where I have been loved for who I am as a person, not loved less for being a daughter.
I am happy because I chose freely where to go to university and what to do in life.
I am happy because in our marriage there are no women’s or men’s chores, but we do things as we agree to.
I am happy because I have friends and collegues who know the value of heart, not prejudice.
I am happy to work in a place where male and female colleagues help each other because they are polite and kind, and not according to gender.

I am aware of my responsibility to teach all this to everyone around me, espevially children.
I am aware that it is up to us to convey to the children, by setting example, a respect for life, effort and friendship, regardless of the things in which we seemingly differ.
I am happy because I am aware of my responsibility.

Happy Women’s Day to all good people!
(PS: I am happy because if anyone leaves a negative comments to this, I can choose to listen, skip, delete, block them… the choice for that is mine;), and the choice for comments is yours)

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A Mind with a View

Some minds only appear as closed, tight, narrow spaces.
They are the hearts that have been locked up.
Within those minds entire worlds exist,
One vaster than the other,
With open meadows
And magic,
Both dark
And light.
Knock gently on those hearts
And have patience.
For once they
Let you in,
You will be
Grateful.

FromVersus Verses – Love

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Miracle

As sorrow washes over
My pain-stricken soul,
And I feel something broken,
Losing all control,
I wish I could curl up
In a lily on a lake
To find a better world
Once I am awake.
I cry out to my friends,
I let my tears flow.
My body is so tired,
But it will heal, I know.
The moon will bring me night time,
Perhaps even a dream.
I’ll meet my gentle angel,
Or at least so it will seem.
And life will bring new miracles.
That’s one thing I do know.
When rain covers my sun,
Life sends me a rainbow.

(from Versus Verses – Feel)

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Visiting award-winning author Ashley Uzzell with my book Spikes for Hank

It is such a rare privilege to be a guest on a blog with a children’s book. So happy Hank made it:)

Thank you, Ashley Uzzell!

https://wp.me/p6WQKo-cq

By the way, if any of you enjoy wordsearches, this book has its own here: https://thewordsearch.com/puzzle/284113/spikes-for-hank/ and it’s free:)

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Inside

As night approaches

And I feel like a howl,

The moon is so distant,

I can’t help but growl

So low, barely heard,

Still honest and true,

Whatever you think of me,

Whatever you do.

My thoughts are my cave,

My soul is my shrine,

My moods are my windows,

My sadness is mine.

Your mind and my own

May not always be one,

But I must chase my fury

Or I’ll be undone.

My demons need voicing,

In stories or verse,

Or they’ll take me over,

My dreams will disperse.

So let my beast be,

Its tale needs a bark,

And when light returns,

It will mellow my dark.

Versus Verses – Love

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